It's an age old question that brings about a number of different responses. Sure there are males with a bunch of female friends and vice versa. Personally, I don't think it can happen if both friends find the other attractive. There's a bunch of sayings involving this matter."She's just my homegirl/ homeboy"
People prefer to date people who are their friends first, so what makes you think that these males and females won't test the boundaries, if they haven't already? Unless you're already in a relationship, and even that sometimes still calls for you to question the boundaries of friendship, homeboy and homegirl can become synonymous for someone that person is messing with.
"If I can't be your man, I can be your friend."
Why do boys try to pick up girls with this line after being rejected? That concept is just not going to work. There's always going to be a suspected motive when you start off being interested in someone and suddenly find it okay to be their friend without even knowing them.
"I prefer to hang out with boys. Girls are too dramatic..."
A lot of girls have used this statement and it holds true a lot of the times. However, guys don't always see things the way you do. While you could be in something for the friendship element, they could be in it for another reason. If ou have one of these friendships, it's important to let it be known that certain lines won't be crossed unless you're okay with taking it there.
While it's great to go from friends to relationship, if the relationship ends it's not always easy to go back to the way things were. It's important to calculate that risk if you decide to take things to another level. I'm not saying you should question every male/female friendship. There are a lot that do exist. I just feel that in a lot of cases, the true friendship becomes established when one of the two has established that they're not or no longer interested in the other.
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