Fake Hair Phoebia

It's understood that being able to run your fingers through a girls scalp without feeling layers of eighteen inch Yaki sewed in is heavenly. I get that. When asked to choose between a girl with a weave and a girl with real hair, we can already predict the answer. Guys and some girls seem to have a heightened dislike for the weave, mainly because they don't like the fact that it's artificial. However, a lot of the times if it's done really well guys don't even know the difference.

Even though artists like India Arie sing "I am not my hair," hair continues to be one of the most important female attributes. It's like the accessory to the face. If a girl's hair is not looking right, a lot of the times it's going to determine her vibe or affect her confidence level. Guys are even attracted to girls based on what kind of hairstyle they have. Girls, for the most part, like a lot of variety with their hair and weave offers that option without affecting your real hair. What I don't get in the weave bashing arguments is that celebrities definitely go through weaves like underwear and they seemed to be put on a pedestal for their looks.

Now, I'm not advocating excessive use of weave or anything. I recall seeing that Chris Rock documentary "Good Hair" and learned that different types of weaves are coming off the heads of Indians, and other races in South Asia, who aren't even aware of how it's being used. Some of them are told that it's for religious sacrifices and other women get it cut right off their head as their praying. There are hair factories where the hair is then washed, sewed, and packaged. It's wild, and definitely tainted my perspective.

People use weaves for different reasons, though. Sometimes they use it to grow their hair back, or because they don't even have hair to grow. I advocate choice, and if you want to be wet-n-wavy today and romance curl tomorrow because that makes you feel good about yourself and your appearance, then to each his own. There's plenty of women out there with fake hair that are living perfectly fine. And for every man that doesn't like weave, there's one that doesn't really care. At the end of the day it's about YOU, and what YOU like. You are the author of your own dictionary, not hair.