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September 28, 2010
Feelin It? : Ringling Brothers Ri-Ri
Rihanna takes on a daring outfit for the shoot of her new video "What's My Name." The red hair hasn't grown on me yet, and I don't think it will. Certain sections of the outfit are great. Loving the referee blazer! Black and white stripes with pops of color are an automatic "Yes" for me. The socks with the Oxford shoes are another quirky liking of mine even I don't think I'd be able to pull it off. However, together it all just seems really busy and all over the place. Fishnets? Take 'em off immediately. But I applaud Rihanna for always going out of the norm. Certain people are allowed to stretch the boundaries of fashion. Ehh... I feel like she would still be able to make it work if she didn't have that hair. No?
September 23, 2010
September 22, 2010
Fishing in the Male Mind
The male mind. A cosmic space filled with women, sports, more women, more sports... yeah that's it pretty much. Oh yeah, can't forget food and recreation too. So simple, yet so complex. Most of the time women wish they could land smack dab in the center of a man's mind and have him teach the ways of his kind. Other times we sensibly understand that maybe we don't want to find out what lies beneath.
I read an article over the summer (can't recall the mag...I was floating between Essence and Elle) that explored the thoughts of a few men in relationships. They walked through the streets undressing women in their minds, mentally eliminating who they wouldn't get physical with and googly-eyeing bodacious body parts. The mind was a place for them to tango with the thoughts of cheating for fear that if actually acted upon they would lose everything. Everything equaling the wives, girlfriends, and/or children waiting at home.
Besides leaving me wishing that men came with thought bubbles when walking down the street, I was curious if this was just something specially ingrained in the Y chromosome. Do women toy with the ideas of what they'd do to complete strangers? Besides celebrities of course. Is it common for all men to pick apart women without them even knowing, to mind flirt on the sidewalk? Innocent attractions leading to a drift in thoughts some might say.
I think men and women are taunted from "The Ones Not Had." The ones they could've engaged in intimacy with and just didn't for whatever reasons. The ones they wanted, but just were a bit out of reach. That always opens room for thoughts to wander, but does it ever just completely sizzle out?
Food for thought.
I read an article over the summer (can't recall the mag...I was floating between Essence and Elle) that explored the thoughts of a few men in relationships. They walked through the streets undressing women in their minds, mentally eliminating who they wouldn't get physical with and googly-eyeing bodacious body parts. The mind was a place for them to tango with the thoughts of cheating for fear that if actually acted upon they would lose everything. Everything equaling the wives, girlfriends, and/or children waiting at home.
Besides leaving me wishing that men came with thought bubbles when walking down the street, I was curious if this was just something specially ingrained in the Y chromosome. Do women toy with the ideas of what they'd do to complete strangers? Besides celebrities of course. Is it common for all men to pick apart women without them even knowing, to mind flirt on the sidewalk? Innocent attractions leading to a drift in thoughts some might say.
I think men and women are taunted from "The Ones Not Had." The ones they could've engaged in intimacy with and just didn't for whatever reasons. The ones they wanted, but just were a bit out of reach. That always opens room for thoughts to wander, but does it ever just completely sizzle out?
Food for thought.
Four People You Never Want Advice From
What should I do about this? What do you think about that? What would you do if...?
We all ask for advice. It's a half cup of indecisiveness, one fourth uncertainty, and another fourth of just wanting to hear someone tell you you're not crazy. The recipe for disaster or success. Somehow people always end up asking the wrong people though. Stay clear of these folks when you're looking for quality advice.
1. The One Who's Doing Worse Than You
I never got the sense in doing this. I can't ask a person for advice if they're not at the same level or higher than me in that area. If I'm happier than you, I'm not gonna pick your brain on ways to increase my happiness when you can't even bring about happiness in your own life. Heck, you should be asking me for advice on what I'm doing right.
2. The Yes Man
Sometimes we tend to want to hear our own thoughts reiterated by someone else, just to make us feel better. Half the time, it's not the best option. You want to be able to rely on the person you're asking advice from, knowing that they aren't just going to say what you want to hear. Someone who challenges your thoughts might even give you a new perspective.
3. The Conventionalist
The problem with asking people who are too stuck in tradition, is that their answers can be too safe sometimes. You want a thought that stems from someone with an open mind, who can judge something without thinking if it fits into tradition or not.
4. The "If It Were Me" Guy
Well it's not you. People have different standards, beliefs, levels of tolerance, etcetera etcetera. A person needs to be able to give advice from an outside perspective. In different scenarios, what you would do is not necessarily the best option for that person so keeping their interests, experiences and their values in mind is key in making suggestions.
Asking the wrong people for advice gets you nowhere and if anything, just puts you in more a sticky situation. Of course, different people's advice-giving levels will vary depending on your subject matter so evaluate accordingly. It saves time, energy and breathe!
We all ask for advice. It's a half cup of indecisiveness, one fourth uncertainty, and another fourth of just wanting to hear someone tell you you're not crazy. The recipe for disaster or success. Somehow people always end up asking the wrong people though. Stay clear of these folks when you're looking for quality advice.
1. The One Who's Doing Worse Than You
I never got the sense in doing this. I can't ask a person for advice if they're not at the same level or higher than me in that area. If I'm happier than you, I'm not gonna pick your brain on ways to increase my happiness when you can't even bring about happiness in your own life. Heck, you should be asking me for advice on what I'm doing right.
2. The Yes Man
Sometimes we tend to want to hear our own thoughts reiterated by someone else, just to make us feel better. Half the time, it's not the best option. You want to be able to rely on the person you're asking advice from, knowing that they aren't just going to say what you want to hear. Someone who challenges your thoughts might even give you a new perspective.
3. The Conventionalist
The problem with asking people who are too stuck in tradition, is that their answers can be too safe sometimes. You want a thought that stems from someone with an open mind, who can judge something without thinking if it fits into tradition or not.
4. The "If It Were Me" Guy
Well it's not you. People have different standards, beliefs, levels of tolerance, etcetera etcetera. A person needs to be able to give advice from an outside perspective. In different scenarios, what you would do is not necessarily the best option for that person so keeping their interests, experiences and their values in mind is key in making suggestions.
Asking the wrong people for advice gets you nowhere and if anything, just puts you in more a sticky situation. Of course, different people's advice-giving levels will vary depending on your subject matter so evaluate accordingly. It saves time, energy and breathe!
September 14, 2010
Foxtrot to School
Just discovered Wildfox Couture. Definitely a fan. Posted these in three pics in the spirit of being back to school.
September 8, 2010
Frog-Prince Trauma
So many women wallow in their singledom, yearning for a smooth frog-turned-prince to hold their hand and skip off into forever with. They spend their whole lives spinning around in a circle screaming "Where is my Prince Charming?!?!" They become so infatuated with the prospect of being in love and having a relationship that every person they kick it off with is a possible marriage in the making. Enough already. I get it, not everyone's cut out for the inconsistency, juggling lifestyle that can come along with the single life. Some people consider it too boring, and they rather have something stable with one person. Others have hoola-hooped in the single circle way too long and just finally want someone to build a connection with. I get it.What I've noticed, however, is a span of desperation waving through females these days. They get so caught up in trying to form something that they lose focus of so many other important things that they should wrapping their heads around within their own lives. When you have yourself together, then the situations in your life begin to come together. I've recently been asked to complete a survey on campus and two of the questions were "Why did you come to Loyola?" and "What do you want to do after college?". Some of the answers included "to meet a mate" and "start a family," and it set in that some people really go through major parts of their lives in deep search for another to fulfill them.
On the other far side of the spectrum are those who praise the single life so much that they begin to hate on others in relationships, simply because of their own lack of being in one. Haters, for a lack of better words. We all know them.
My message to the depressed love crooners is SNAP OUT OF IT! You want to be a happy, complete version of yourself so that when you do get into a relationship, it's equal and healthy. Who wants to be labeled as the clingy, needy one? Don't get so caught up in the fairytale that you forget to build and create your own story. Live your life first, and the rest of the pieces of the puzzle will fill themselves in without you forcefully jamming them together.
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